20230423 Memorial of Saint Peter Claver, Priest

Readings at USCCB.org

Our grandson, Greyson, just started kindergarten a few weeks ago. Although I think his pre-school prepared him for this, one of the first things that schools will do starting with kindergarten is to teach them how handle arguments or disagreements. That being said…we tend to fall away from that as we get older.

Too many people sit in pain and anger after an argument…or they hear that someone has dissed or shamed them publicly or on social media. That pain and anger bind us. They eat up our energy, keep us from focusing on school or work, and make us stay awake at night. 

In this week’s Gospel (Matthew 18: 15-20), Jesus offers a recipe for all of this:
confront the person who hurt you.

The early Christians sinned against one another in a variety of ways. St. Matthew included this teaching from Jesus possible as advice for them. First, talk about your conflict one on one. If that doesn’t help, find an objective person who might help you work things out. If that doesn’t work, you might have to end the relationship.

You can use that advice too! When people hurt you, face them and express your feelings without attacking or insulting them. Sometimes people don’t even know
they’ve done something hurtful until you confront them. If the people who hurt you won’t listen, look for someone who will listen to both sides to help mediate
the situation…sometimes that can help.

Unfortunately, there are times you’ll come across stubborn people who just can’t
admit they’re wrong. Rather than continue letting them hurt you, move on to other healthy friendships…you deserve better.

As we start our Confirmation year, as students and staff let’s start this week by resolving to face conflicts head on. As Jesus says, you not only free yourself but you’ll also probably be helping the person who hurt you.

Have a GREAT week! jim